It’s the most wonderful time of the year. It’s supposed to be, but not always. Many things can get in the way to cloud the birth of the Son of Man – Heartache, sadness, anxiety, loneliness, loss and sickness are some of the many distractions. But, as the saying goes, “it’s okay to not be okay. “

Sometimes, you are too down to seek out a pastor or counselor. Here are some things I have done to help myself. Cry. It is a natural release of emotions. And, it is okay for men, too. Talk to God. He hears you even if you do not think He does. Prayer can be very powerful. Try it and see.

Call a friend to talk, someone who is a good listener. Put on some music you love and dance around; walk around the block, hug your dog or cat, or even your goldfish bowl. Pets can be a great comfort. Make a list of the good things in your life. Put it someplace where you will see it. Watch a funny movie. Sing! Ten minutes a day does all kinds of good things for the body. It doesn’t matter if you are not a great singer. God says make a joyful noise.

It is good to remember that things will change. It may only take some time. Do not beat yourself up for feeling the way you do. Remember the saying that it’s okay to not be okay? Just do not decide to set up camp there. You are a special and unique creation with gifts and talents like no one else. Really.

Smile at people. They almost always smile back. May this season be something to enjoy, even if it is not completely what you think you want it to be. Make an effort to be positive with affirmations like,

“Today’s going to be a good day.” Say it out loud. Happiness is a choice, after all. Make it a good one.

Barb Slack

Enumclaw